4 Lessons from Daddy

As Father’s Day is coming to an end, I am grateful to have been able to keep it together today. For my new subscribers who are not aware, my father passed away on August 1, 2016. Although the grief process is sometimes difficult, my journey of grieving my father has been full of peace, happiness, and great memories. Rather than languish in sadness, I decided that I would take joy in being able to remember him. That decision has served me well. Those difficult days of grief are very few and far between.

In my father’s passing, I learned so many beautiful things about who he was. If you ever met him, it didn’t take much to realize that he was a hardworking man, he was generous, and he LOVED working on cars.

A few months before he passed away, we spent an afternoon together as he performed some preventative maintenance on my car. We drove to a nearby Advance Auto location where he picked up parts that were needed. As we conversed, he shared a story of how he had done some work on a vehicle, for which he never got paid. Although I knew my dad could hold his own, I was disappointed and asked why he let people get away with not paying. He looked at me with tenderness in his eyes and said, “I know the good Lord will take care of me.”

To this day, those words touch my heart. As a woman of faith, I certainly know and understand God’s provision, but to hear my dad express that he wasn’t worried about his livelihood just because one person didn’t pay was such an honorable thing to me. My dad was a simple man. As long as he had what he needed, he was good.

On the other hand, what I love about the story that he shared is that he didn’t bother with chasing someone down to pay him. This didn’t just speak to his level of faith, but it spoke to a level of maturity as he was a man who knew how to pick his battles. This resonates with me because often we feel justified in fighting battles that have already been won. We have to learn to let go sometimes.

In the aftermath of my dad leaving his earthly body, I was blessed by the outpouring of love and resources. There were people literally looking for me to make a contribution towards his final arrangements. There were others who, in making contributions, made statements to assure my brother and me that they gave because they knew my father to be a generous man. Hearing this was comforting and reassuring because as I mentioned, my dad was a simple man. He didn’t have much, but what he did give made a difference in the lives of those who were on the receiving end. We are often encouraged to hold on to what we have, but my father was clear on the principle of giving and the fact that he would always have what he needs.

My dad lived what he taught me much more than he had to explain:

  • Be generous.
  • Walk in faith.
  • Pick your battles.
  • Live a life worth remembering.

If Daddy were here today, we probably would have enjoyed a day outdoors with some food on the grill, good drinks and maybe even a card game. I rest in the peace of being able to remember him and the things he loved to do, and I’m grateful to carry on the legacy of servitude and generosity. I hope these lessons give you something to consider as you continue on your journey. Be blessed. 🙂

3 Things To Remember About Following Your Dreams

As a kid, I grew to love reading and writing. In third grade, I along with my classmates had an assignment to create various poems. Our teacher took each of our compilation of works and created a spiral bound book. Over the years, I managed to keep mine. It became a prized possession. It was a reminder of something I created, an accomplishment that I wouldn’t soon forget. I had always envisioned that I would become a writer, I just didn’t know what the path would be to become one. Truth be told, I have always been a writer. It is a gift that took me years to acknowledge and embrace. My life changed the day Mrs. Gilbert passed out those completed poetry books. That day, I received what I would come to know as my first publication. That day, a seed was sown in me, and that book became the manifestation of the gift that I share with you today.

Whatever your gift is, you probably already know what it is. You feel an incredible sense of purpose when you do it. You are often complimented on how well you do it. You are most fulfilled and usually content when operating in it. No matter how bad things get, you may put it down for a while, but you always pick it back up. Here are three things I realized about the process of seeing your dreams come to pass.

1. Your gifts will make room for you and lead you to opportunities that will be in alignment with your purpose.

2. Walking in your purpose leads to the manifestation of your dreams and the things that you hope to accomplish.

3. Walking out your dreams is fulfilling and allows you to be content with your life. It is no easy feat, but it is more than worth it.

The first step is recognizing your skills and abilities so that you can pinpoint what your “gift” is. You can do this by making a list of the things you do well or complete a self-assessment. When you KNOW what your gifts are, you are prepared to walk in your purpose.

Assignment: Take time to pinpoint and acknowledge your strengths and weaknesses.
Figure out how those strengths tie in with your gifts and abilities then take time to see
how they align with your goals and dreams.

Reflection: You were created with purpose and for a purpose. Don’t let that escape you.
Everything that you will do on this Earth, whether positive or negative, starts on the
inside of you.